Friday, April 17, 2009
question 1
I believe that competitive symmetry would be the most difficult to change. I compare this alot with competitive spirit within sports. For athletes especially that have this kind of attidude winning and being better then someone else drives them for the extra training the extra effort when there body says no, this is their fuel. For others making more money then their competitors whoever they chose them or set up to be. This would also be most dangerous to a relationship because it would show dominance from one side or both sides for wants and needs and doesnt show the balance needed to make a relationship work. The other two have more balance which would make them less harmful then the competitve symmetry. I also believe it is the most damaging to a persons self esteem because one would never think they are right or have a opinion or a voice in any matter when dealing with someone that has a competitive symmetry and had to win and be right and would go to any limit to prove it.
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i agree that competitive symmetry would be the most detrimental to one's self esteem as exemplified by type A personalities, of which athletes would fall into. I'm always amazed by the mental myopia of athletes: win at all costs. losing is not an option. and i agree with you that the long term success of any relationship is based upon the willingness to compromise. within a serious relationship it shouldn't be necessary to ALWAYS be right and press that point. but among those with a fiercely strong competitive edge, it's difficult to avoid that tendency. i would bet the majority of students posting side with competitive symmetry begin the most damaging to one's self esteem. i'm gonna look at some other posts...
ReplyDeleteI can relate with the competitive symmetry where people have to find a way to scale back their competitive side to make their relationship work. I am a former athlete and it can be difficult in social, work, and relationship situations to find the happy medium approach and manage the competitive impulse. If this type of symmetry is too one sided the person who is submissive in the relationship can experience low self esteem in a greater extent of other symmetry's the book gives examples of.
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