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The interesting topic to me was facial expressions. I have always been interested in facial expression because to me they tell a lot. If you can tell someones facial expression and interpret it you can understand their verbal message even better or figure out their verbal message is actually not accurate to what they really want to say. The book talks about from culture to culture their is certain facial expression that reach all the way across and their is certain that are different or the intensity is different. Smiling and crying are universal facial expression but then the amount might differ from culture to culture or when it is acceptable or not. When the book talked about gloating and liking gifts or not a lot of personal examples came to my mind of when I was in that situation and adjusting my facial expression just to not offend the other person.

question 2

Nonverbal messages vary from region to region country to country and culture to culture. So misinterpreting these messages is very common in every day life. One example of differences in nonverbal messages is finger pointing. Here in the US it is completely acceptable to point a finger at someone and it is not seen as rude or anything of that sort. It is accepted and understand as trying to get someones attentions or pointing someone out to another by pointing at them. In Asia it is considered rude to do that pointing your finger at someone. So when they try to get your attention or point someone out they use the whole hand. Same sort of messages but different way of bringing it across.

Question 1

There is this co worker of mine who always has a serious face on. Always serious in six years I have seen her smile maybe twice. I always thought she was in a bad mood or just an angry person. So one time she was trying to be sarcastic about something with her facial expression in mean mode and after hearing her I didnt know how to understand the message she is trying to send. I took it serious because thats what her facial reaction and what I know about her personality suggested. Well her comments ruined my day and later the next day I find out she was just being sarcastic and if you work with her more you understand her sarcasm and find out that she is actually pretty nice and just has that facial expression and sends out the nonverbal message that she is angry unknowingly.

question 3

The concept I found interesting was capturing attention which I think is the most important part when trying to give a speech persuade in a advertisement or anywhere because if you do not capture the attention of your listeners you are pretty much talking to yourself and the quality of your work will not have the effect it needs to have. Capturing voluntary attention is a lot easier then involuntary. A voluntary listener has personal reasons to be in tune with what you are saying. For example someone driving a ford will listen to a speech on a recall of ford with more attention then someone who does not have a car or not a ford. That makes the speakers job easier having that situation, but on the other hand the involuntary listener needs to be given a reason to why they should be listening which becomes the speakers duty to bring across that message. For example how they could potentially be a ford driver and might be interested in these issues.

Question 2

I agree that woman and men use language differently. I think in all areas there are differences. Woman I believe are a lot more in depth when they speak with the information they bring across. While males are less detail oriented. Also woman use a lot of emotion when talking which makes them a lot more persuasive in everyday communication which differs from men. On the other hand I believe the males have more powerful tones and their message is translated differently. So in conclusion I want to add that maybe its not that woman and men communicate differently but rather then woman and men are understood differently and their words are interpreted differently.

Question 1

I doubt it is possible. We are trained at an early age to judge and categorize right away from our first glance. Judge from appearance all the way to the way they talk and carry themselves. Unless you have a completely empty background yourself which is impossible you will automatically start judging people and comparing them to yourself. The way we can make the judgments more fair for example are including all factors of people what they went through how they came up and how they were raised when judging them. Understanding where they came from and not looking at their actions as wow look at their action or by why did they act the way that they did. Including all those factors would enable us to make our judgments a lot more fair, rather then comparing them to ourselves which could be completely different.